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Charles's avatar

I have seen this to be true not just of Asian immigrants, but more broadly - it's important to cultivate subtle demonstrations of self-respect. Very-well written!

Zj's avatar

My boss gave me feedback to use any meeting to speak and take up more space. I thought that was ridicules. But maybe I should try it.

Jeff Yang's avatar

This resonates so much I'm in tears. I remember "competitions" where each parent would say why their child is worse. I remember being bullied until I snapped and fought.

Dave Lu's avatar

Thank you for reading and for sharing Jeff! And yes, we all need to learn to fight!

Hanh's avatar

So true! Thanks for writing this article as I learned a bit more of my behaviors and our Asian culture.