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Charles's avatar

I have seen this to be true not just of Asian immigrants, but more broadly - it's important to cultivate subtle demonstrations of self-respect. Very-well written!

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Zj's avatar

My boss gave me feedback to use any meeting to speak and take up more space. I thought that was ridicules. But maybe I should try it.

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Jeff Yang's avatar

This resonates so much I'm in tears. I remember "competitions" where each parent would say why their child is worse. I remember being bullied until I snapped and fought.

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Dave Lu's avatar

Thank you for reading and for sharing Jeff! And yes, we all need to learn to fight!

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Hanh's avatar

So true! Thanks for writing this article as I learned a bit more of my behaviors and our Asian culture.

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