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Mike Trouble Lin's avatar

TL;DR Lead with kindness, but be cautious of other’s intentions.

This post reminds me of the scene 🎬 in Didi where Joan Chen’s mother character is having the conversation with the mom bragging about her son

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Joyce Li's avatar

Dave, I learned about "abundance mindset" from your article and have been practicing it as much as I can. Thank you. Regarding 'do not be a doormat', I experienced some painful disappointments that took considerable time to overcome. Looking back, I now see these experiences as blessings, as pruning transactional relationships creates space for more genuine connections. There's no value in mourning friendships that were merely transactional (if they can be called 'friendships' at all).

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Amy Wilson's avatar

Love this David Lu! It is a beautiful articulation of a topic that Meg Bear and I discuss frequently.

Meg embodies this generosity (and abundance mindset) and every turn - it is amazing to see and also provides a stark contrast to those with a transactional approach.

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Meg Bear's avatar

thanks @Amy for the kind words AND the daily reminder to not take myself so seriously.

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Dave Lu's avatar

I’ve seen it myself with Meg’s thoughtful engagement and support on my posts! Looking forward to our conversation!

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Farah Hussain's avatar

“Every interaction and event is a domino” - appreciating how you’re applying this to an abundance mindset. The metaphor stood out to me because coincidentally I used it in a different but related capacity the other day. I wrote about how taking a first step - pushing that first domino forward - creates momentum for the next dominoes / actions to fall.

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Bette A. Ludwig, PhD 🌱's avatar

You see this transactional type relationship dynamic play out a lot online. It also happens in real life too but it seems incredibly prevalent on platforms like LinkedIn, for example.

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Meg Bear's avatar

The college pressure for kids right now is so disturbing to me. I hope we move past that soon and recognize that some of us managed to be successful with a state school education (and a Pell grant). Life is long and the journey is as important as the externally valued achievements. Thank you for reminding us all that it's the impact we have on each other that creates the real lasting value.

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