Being raised to be perfect can lead to a lifetime of crippling self-doubt and fear of taking risks, that needs to be overcome in order to be successful.
Love this- I run my own college admission consulting firm that focuses on helping high achieving Asian American teens into top colleges. I have recently expanded my coaching to include life skills, helping teens gain the exact traits that you are talking about.
Social skills and EQ are more important than test prep and perfect grades. You can be the smartest person in the room but you need to be able to communicate your ideas and find allies/mentors for true career “success”.
"American culture rewards confidence and relationship building versus pure meritocratic excellence." - well said! Early in my career I was very annoyed to know this and thought my path was one of counter-culture warrior. Later I learned that it was my job to make this work for me - finding a path that aligned with my values. That has led me to the philosophy that your job in life is to find out what you are *uniquely* good at and then find out how to use that in service of others. In that context [for me] I am able to lean into my confidence and relationship building more authentically.
Love this- I run my own college admission consulting firm that focuses on helping high achieving Asian American teens into top colleges. I have recently expanded my coaching to include life skills, helping teens gain the exact traits that you are talking about.
Social skills and EQ are more important than test prep and perfect grades. You can be the smartest person in the room but you need to be able to communicate your ideas and find allies/mentors for true career “success”.
"American culture rewards confidence and relationship building versus pure meritocratic excellence." - well said! Early in my career I was very annoyed to know this and thought my path was one of counter-culture warrior. Later I learned that it was my job to make this work for me - finding a path that aligned with my values. That has led me to the philosophy that your job in life is to find out what you are *uniquely* good at and then find out how to use that in service of others. In that context [for me] I am able to lean into my confidence and relationship building more authentically.